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What CULTURE might we create if we approached relationships from what we could GIVE rather than GET?

Often we think about what people SHOULD give us.

What our manager should give us.

What our teams should give us.

What our clients should give us.

What our stakeholders should give us.

What the organisation should give us.

We live in a world riddled with entitlement and self-centeredness.

It's nice and fluffy to think that we are generous kind human beings.

No one likes to think of themselves as self-centered or a "bad human".

ID: Winitha on stage speaking at Business Chicks 2025

And in my experience, both with myself and others, I've come to realise that we are actually quite self-centered people. And that doesn't make us "bad", it makes us REAL.

In fact, I have caught myself many a time thinking of myself way too much, and I'm wondering if you are brave and courageous enough to see the same in yourself?

The lens I have been viewing relationships through is a GIVE rather than GET lens.

What can I GIVE to the relationship, to the stranger, to the client, to the audience.

This doesn't mean that we don't have boundaries or that we overgive where we are depleted and unable to take care of ourselves. That's called martyrdom/savior, and that too is rooted in self/ego.

Work by Jean Twenge and W. Keith Campbell suggests that societally, an overfocus on self has bred narcissism, entitlement, and external validation, particularly in Western culture.

Let's flip the dial and focus on what we can GIVE rather than GET.

Organisational culture would be much better for it.

The world would be much better for it.

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With grace and grit,
Winitha Bonney OAM